Transitioning out of Mormonism is like a newly
married couple. The wife loves the husband and is certain
that he loves her.
One day he comes home and she can smell a strange perfume
on his shirt. But since she has faith in him, she simply disregards
A few days later she notices lipstick on his collar and this
time, (kind of jokingly), she asks him where the lipstick
came from. His answer is somewhat stretched and convoluted
but she has faith in him so she accepts what he says and tries
to put it out of her mind.
As time goes on she comes across more glaring evidences that
he is having an affair and each time the explanations he provides
become more convoluted and less plausible. He also starts
making implied threats that, if she continues this line of
questioning, he will leave her.
Added to her worries is the fact that when she confides in
family and friends about her concerns they all tell her that
they "know" he is a good man and that she needs to have more
faith in him. They also make it clear that they will side
with him if things go bad. 'After all', they say,'Isn't he
a good provider? Isn't he good for the children?'
So ask yourself, at what point does her "faith" in her husband
stop being faith and start being denial (or simply acceptance
of a bad situation and trying to make the best of it)? Is
it when she sees him having dinner with a strange woman and
does nothing? Or is it when she finally sees him in bed with
another woman and still does nothing?
Mormons who are facing the painful truth about the church
are just like that woman.